So I’m totally not an expert on this topic, but given that I’m one of the biggest introverts/shy/doesn’t-do-well-in-crowds kinda people, and I got out of my comfort zone last weekend, I feel like I can talk about the subject and hopefully help other people like me going through the same thing.
So that’s where we are.
But, I’m going to back up for a minute and start at the beginning of my comfort zone journey.
When I started the blog, it was an easy thing for me to open up and share my thoughts and ideas and openly “chat” with whoever decided to read it. Because I was able to sit behind a screen and just type away. No awkward silence, no need to fill that empty space with small talk (which I ABSOLUTELY hate- I cannot stand small talk). But, when I realized I still have to put myself out there in other ways in order to grow the blog like I wanted, I started to panic.
I didn’t think I was as trendy or photogenic as the bloggers I was seeing everyday on my screen. I saw so many of them posting photos of themselves (both raw and staged), videos, YouTube Q & A’s, tutorials, etc. and I knew I knew I would have to do that too.
Not saying that those things HAVE to be done in order to succeed, but this is a Lifestyle blog, and I wanted to. I didn’t want just staged product photos and recipes. I wanted each and every reader to be able to put a face to the name (?) and see who I am and my personal style and get a feel for my personality.
And so, I forced my boyfriend (who’s never held a professional camera in his life) to take pictures of me. Note- the first time we attempted this new venture I had to have about 6 shots beforehand, would only go as far as our front lawn, and made him pretend to be taking pictures of a tree whenever a car or person would walk past. What should have taken about 4 minutes, took 45. (Feel free to check out that post here).
But, I did it. I made a small move outside my little zone and put my face on my blog. And it was not nearly as bad as I thought.
Flash forward to a year and a half later, and I FINALLY decided that taking pics in front of the house was getting old. So this past weekend I told Arthur he needed to force me out of the house and into a new location downtown so I could switch things up a bit.
And we did. It was actually kinda motivating to know people were seeing him take photos and I’m just there twirling and moving around. I was actually secretly hoping the CEO of Forever 21 was going to drive by and ask to use my photos on their website. HA- I kid, I kid.
But ya see, you just have to push yourself to do things you don’t like. And you CANNOT worry about what other people will think. This is still something I have a huge problem letting go of, but you gotta do it. You cannot allow yourself to be scared to do something different because Sally down the street is going to think it’s stupid or that you look ridiculous.
Who gives a shit.
baby steps as they say. First it’s posting pics on your blog or website of yourself, then it’s taking photos in public, next it’s speaking at conferences on stage (I’ll have to be 3 sheets to the wind to be able to pull that off), and it just snowballs from here until you realize how silly you were to ever thing you could never step out of your little bubble.
You’ll 10000% surprise yourself once you do. I have always thought I sucked at having my picture taken and looked awkward and weird.. But I have to say, when I just let go and think of the future I want, they turn out better than I thought they would.
I will for sure continue to keep sharing my struggles with you, because I know I am not the only person who feels likee this! So if you have a specific question, ask away and I’m happy to try and help!
And, if you have tricks/tips on this whole subject, share share share! I def have room for improvement!
Ok, let’s talk outfit deets:
How cute is this top?? And it’s insanely comfy!! It was a little higher on price point ($35), but so worth it as it’s totally a closet staple- wear it with shorts, wear it with black skinnies and a denim jacket, or with jeans and white keds (like me). Super versatile. Love..
Alright, my lunch break is ending, so I gotta run!