Life gets easier when you just stop giving a shit.
Back up… Let me get a little more specific.
Life gets easier when you stop giving a shit about what other people think, or what you should be doing to be: liked, more successful, richer, etc.
If I’ve learned anything over the last 4 months, it’s that to make blogging a full time “job” and wake up doing what I love everyday, I just have to do my own thing and stop comparing myself constantly to everyone else on the internet.
Stay in your own lane as they say.
I actually read a post the other day about something Bethany Frankel said :
“Be like Michael Phelps. Don’t look side to side. Focus on going forward and a strong finish.”
I mean how obvious is that? And how insane that more people aren’t like good old MP. If peeps stayed themselves and really thought about how THEY wanted to create their own business and make it their OWN, I can guarantee that there would be way more entrepreneurs in the world. It’s so easy to get caught up in social media and the facade that you have to be a certain way to be successful, or to wonder why you’re not at the level someone else is.
Comparison and trying to copy someone else is such a waste of a time and so blah. Oh, and people can always tell when you aren’t being genuine.
Before I go any further, let me say, that I was once one of those people that always compared myself to my others. Especially when I launched the blog. I thought that if these other bloggers had these fancy cameras, wrote and blogged a certain way, wore certain outfits, designed their house with the latest home decor pieces, I had to do all that too. Correction: I needed/wanted/had no choice but to, do all those things.
And all that time I spent trying to be like those people, I could have been putting that energy into growing A Lifestyle Daily and figuring out how I wanted it to look and feel, and the experience I wanted my readers to have.
But, as they say:
Better late than never
I’ve really had to take a step back and stop reading other blogs so I can really just focus on finding my voice and making the blog unique. And I have to say, it’s really been a game changer. I’m discovering color schemes I like and don’t like, the exact look and vibe I want for the blog and what I want it to grow into.
If you’re kind of stuck or feeling like you’re so busy trying to replicate or just want to throw in the towel because you’re so worried about being (or not being) like someone else, I highly recommend taking a break from social media and the world wide web.
At least until you feel like you can read them again purely for the entertainment factor and not because you’re trying to snag ideas and tips on how to make your thing just like theirs.
A few other tips when it comes to comparing:
+ Collaborating is so much better than competing. In this biz, we all need to build each other up. It’s not a race, and it’s not a competition. There’s room for everyone! So collab with your favorite bloggers instead of trying to compete and be better than them.
+ Have Patience! You can’t beat yourself up because someone else has 200,000 followers and you only have 600. Everyone is on their own schedule and you just have to stay in your own lane (remember Michael Phelps??) and know that your time will come.
+ While you’re busy comparing yourself, others are out there building a unique brand. And they’re the ones who wind up with 200,000 followers after 6 months while you still have 600.
So you see, comparison is blah, boring, yawn.
Be yourself, do your own thing, and stop worrying about what other people have that you don’t.